I was speaking with my Dad today and we must of spoke for over a hour, and when we speak it far ranging from politics, economic to religion. We have a really good relationship but that was not always the case.
What I wanted to share is my parents broke up when I was around seven years old. For a long time I held bitterness towards my father which had a dramatic impact on our relationship. I was not interested in having a relationship, friendship call it what you will.
But when I became a Christian all that changed. The reason being was I understood that like my dad I'm not perfect and neither is any person that walks on the earth.
With this way of thinking it produced the mindset who am I to judge my Dad when I have my own issues to deal with.
Also I had to learn forgiveness because I was asking God to forgive me of my sins but holding onto the sin that were against me. HYPOCRITE.
The two things removing judgement and having forgiveness allowed a new friendship to be born and now I can say me and my dad speak for a few hours every week.
Now that I learnt these lesson I can apply them to any other relationships that my need building. But also I should state that having forgiveness and not being judgemental gives you also a sense of freedom to focus on thing that are important and are liberating instead of things that are time consuming, energy sapping and joy stealing. Question? Have you ever met a happy bitter person!
Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"
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