Building Bridges

Really wanted to share this today because I know that it does affect alot of people.

I was speaking with my Dad today and we must of spoke for over a hour, and when we speak it far ranging from politics, economic to religion. We have a really good relationship but that was not always the case.

What I wanted to share is my parents broke up when I was around seven years old. For a long time I held bitterness towards my father which had a dramatic impact on our relationship. I was not interested in having a relationship, friendship call it what you will.

But when I became a Christian all that changed. The reason being was I understood that like my dad I'm not perfect and neither is any person that walks on the earth.
With this way of thinking it produced the mindset who am I to judge my Dad when I have my own issues to deal with.
Also I had to learn forgiveness because I was asking God to forgive me of my sins but holding onto the sin that were against me. HYPOCRITE.
The two things removing judgement and having forgiveness allowed a new friendship to be born and now I can say me and my dad speak for a few hours every week.

Now that I learnt these lesson I can apply them to any other relationships that my need building. But also I should state that having forgiveness and not being judgemental gives you also a sense of freedom to focus on thing that are important and are liberating instead of things that are time consuming, energy sapping and joy stealing. Question? Have you ever met a happy bitter person!

Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Opportunity Knocks

What a day today.

Day started at 5.30  and we are just about to sign off before a 6 start in the morning for a meeting in Ipswich.

But no need to feel sorry for me. Right about know I don't want to sleep I am just to excited about the future.

The reason for my excitement is in the post title. Opportunity knocks and the opportunities even in this market are knocking. Firstly had a meeting with  company GL360 Production (Plug for them) who are doing the videos for Gen Hope and the first video production is looking good release should be next week fingered crossed, you will be inspired. From that meeting had a call from a prospect who looking for some coaching from Gen Hope helping them to set up their business and gain some direction and also accountability.
As soon as I put down the phone went into my second meeting. Now I cannot say to much at this stage but just know that a new venture is on the books and we are looking to change what currently is a pretty dated service sector industry. Over the two hours the level of excitement between me and the potential business partner was immense. Reviewing what potentially we could achieve in the next three years with alot of work (More long day and little sleep, who needs sleep) drive and God's favour (wink wink)  it just enough to want to begin working on the project now even though the clock is saying 00:24.

 You might be asking why the title 'Opportunity Knocks'. The reason being the second meeting, the potential business partner approached me to partner him in a business they have already sent up and have healthy turnover  but looking for input to take it to the next level ideally. Now I had to be in the right place to get the potential great opportunity to knock on my door. But also be in the right place to take on the opportunity.

The one thing I am learning if you put yourself in the right environment, around the right people, speak about your vision sooner or later you will begin to attract the opportunities that you are looking for.

2012 is already shaping up to becoming a great year and it's begun.

Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Keeping it going

Any one can start the race, but not many finish it.

The reason being it is tough to finish the race. Ask any athlete and they will all say that when they are fresh every thing is OK but what happens after 30/ 60/90 minutes?
When the legs are tired, the heart is pumping out of your chest, your feeling physical sick but you cannot stop if you want to win. Those that can rise to the challenge will be the one that succeeds. But the truth is many people quit at those times and the funny thing is they usually where only moments away from their success.

I use the above to motivate me to to keep going. At the moment the dreams I have seem like a million miles way. Especially when things are not going the way you planned, projects not running smoothly, financing tight and you feel your the only one that truly believes in your vision and their is one part of me that thinks just take the easy route Denzil!! For me the easy route means forgetting the vision for Gen Hope, wife not having to work, my dream home and everything else that on my dream board. Instead accept what would be falling in line and being like so many other people I know moaning about life and what it not given them. Complaining that life's boring, same old, same old. Reminiscing on the past when we were 18 and life was easier.

Just writing this I realise more and more I have no choice but to continue towards what I want to achieve, no matter how many mistakes I make (Just learn from them), how many times I fail (Just learn from them) , no matter how long it takes (As long as I get there), no matter how hard it gets (Remember it harder to know you didn't try, than to have tried and failed)

So this post is for every one going after their dreams and not allowing life to get in the way.

Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Fighting for the right or wrong things

A few days ago some one said to me "I had to learn to pick my fights". Then someone else said they were fighting for a certain cause , in both instances  there was a reason to fight and a reason not to fight.

Then I begin asking myself the question am I fighting for the right things?

It is so easy to expend energy into something that just plain not worth it and the very thing that you should be fighting for get no efforts.

Why is this?

This is why it is important to have times of reflection to think is this worth my while and secondly have good counsel (Friends, mentors, family) who can bring the facts without emotional ties which can help to bring clarity.

I've decided to really review this over the next 48hrs to ensure that my energy is being directed in the right place.



Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Exposure

Speaking with a family member today they made me realise that all the people I have ever meet have had a impact whether that be large or small in my life.

Let me give you a example. A man I know lived a great life in regards to his career, finances, slept around with women, but never took care of his responsibilities. When I say responsibilities I mean his children. He never spent time with them, help them financially even though he could, and was pre occupied with living his life. Now forward this person life 20 or so years, this person have lost his career, cars and his health. He has no real strong relationship especially with his kids. The man is a shadow of his former self. Having this exposure to this person made me realise who I didn't want to be in life.

The same for certain people I have known that have had incredible talents but have not used it to progress and 10 years later that is all they have the potential to have been. I realised also I did not want to waste my potential.

On a positive note I meet a elderly gent, who is Mr Content. He always helping people and giving things and money away. He always offering encouragement and support to all around him, he was some one I wanted to be like.

I remember also meeting a person I will call MR T. He was a father that picked up his daughter, provided for his family, turned a negative life into a positive one. Dream big and obtained the dream. I said I want to eliminate that drive and passion in my life.

The biggest impact in truth that has come from a exposure to some one is my experience with Jesus. I know sounds crazy but so true. Daily he challenges me to do better, but also encourages that I can do better. He has taught me to be a husband and father when no one else has, how to dream and go for them when I had stop believing.

Every day we meet people and remember every one has a story to tell if your prepared to listen. No matter the story it can effect you in a positive way to bring about change.

Also be careful not to surround your self continually with negative people as that will also have a negative impact and mark on your life.

Remember "God gift to us if life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

One Step at time

As mentioned before me and my best friend are doing a forty day walk in regards to our purpose.

Well today my friend showed my that by taking just one step is just as important as ten steps because it means momentum. Momentum that takes you closer to your purpose so any steps taken should not be taken lightly.

My problem like alot of people I only recognise the big things that I do, i.e. I purchased a property today, I sold £2'000 of products. The truth is these are good things but are what I would call the mountain top experience. I live in contentment in the mountain top experience but this stops me from also loving the journey.

By reviewing my day with my friend, I was taught once again to celebrate every step not just the great leaps. The truth is after reviewing the day I feel good about the day that I have had. It has been productive, wrote my blogs, made a great connection for the business and updated website. GOOD DAY

So my thought to share "ENJOY EVERY STEP OF THE JOURNEY"

Remember "God gift to us is life what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Blessing of Marriage

As I mentioned from the outset success is more than money, it is about success in your relationship and marriage for me is included in that.
The title of my blog is road to glory and being married is a journey. I truly believe you learn so much about yourself in a marriage it is untrue.

Unlike when I am around friends, family or work colleague etc in my marriage I cannot hide who you truly are. At work you can keep up a pretence for 8 hours of the day and as soon as you clock out you switch to the real you. Same with friends you spend a few hours together and you can put on a mask "all is ok"  "I got it together", "AM COOL".
But in marriage you cannot keep up the pretence not for long anyway. You wife/ partner will be the one person in the main that can testify who you are and what you are.

I been married eight years and been with my wife 10 years in total. I learnt that I am selfish, moody, rude and at times unloving. But to the world I was a different character because they never really knew me. Now when faced with the challenge of looking at your self and saying wow this is me, there are two things you can do.
1) Say that just who I am and you married me like this TOUGH
2) Say OK I need to change because I want to be the same in the home as I am outside the home
I've chosen the later and what a decision that is.

One of the areas I working on is a challenge from the bible "Love your wife like Christ loves the church". Sound easy! IT'S NOT

What this means I must learn to love my wife even when we go through our storms. love her even if she not feeling me, love her when she doesn't want to speak to me, love her when she has hurt me. Also one of the big thing I had to learn and still learning is to LOVE without expectation. It easy to love my wife and do nice things for her when she responding to my love. But what happens when I love her and she does not return the favour, or shows appreciation for my efforts. WILL I STILL LOVE HER THEN? UMMMMMMM

The truth is I struggled with this I only wanted to love if I got a response or love when things were good. God states that not real love. Real LOVE is unconditional, the same unconditional love God has for his church.

Also writing this you will see none of this involves my wife, this is about me changing and being who I need to be a marriage.

I can say I learning this and implementing this is, which has been a blessing on our marriage and I believe it's the source that will take us through a additional eight years. The reason I say this is becuase God showed me how much more will your wife feel loved if you love her all the time, no matter what. Then she will know that she is my treasure and not just a feel good partner.

I must state once again IT NOT EASY BUT IT WORTH IT. This is true of any great success you desire to achieve in life.

Marriage is a blessing but you got to be prepared to learn about yourself and be prepared to change for the better, regardless how hard the change process can be.

Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Stop waiting for the perfect moment

Hi All

Wanted to share this as I feel that as it has been a blessing to me it can be a blessing you.

If from a organisation called UCB and a feature they have called word for the day. Whether you are a Christian or not the lesson are relevant to truly succeed.

Below is part one.

STOP WAITING FOR PERFECT CONDITIONS (1)			04 Feb 2012
''He who observes the wind will not sow.'' Ecclesiastes 11:4
Too many of us stand on the dock waiting. We want the ship in place, the gangplank perfectly positioned, the weather right, and an engraved invitation before we're willing to launch out. It will never happen! Dreams don't move toward us, we have to move toward them. One author writes: 'It's time to quit waiting for perfection, inspiration, permission, reassurance, someone to change, the right person to come along, the kids to leave home, the new administration to take over, an absence of risk, someone to discover you, a clear set of instructions, more self-confidence, or the pain to go away. Instead of saying, 'We've never done it before,' say, 'We have the opportunity to be first.' Instead of saying, 'We don't have the resources,' say, 'Necessity fuels invention.' Instead of saying, 'There's not enough time,' say, 'We'll change how we work.' Instead of saying, 'We've already tried that,' say, 'We learned from experience.' Instead of saying, 'We don't have the expertise,' say, 'Let's network with those who do.' Instead of saying, 'Our vendors and customers won't go for it,' say, 'Let's show them the opportunities.' Instead of saying, 'We don't have enough money,' say, 'Maybe there's something we can cut.' Instead of saying, 'We're understaffed,' say, 'We're a lean, hungry team.' Instead of saying, 'It'll never get any better,' say, 'We'll try one more time.' Instead of saying, 'Let somebody else deal with it,' say, 'I'm ready to learn something new.' Instead of saying, 'It's not my job,' say, 'I'll be glad to take the responsibility.' Instead of saying, 'I can't,' say, 'By God's grace I can! Remember "God gift to us is life, what we do with that life is our gift back to God"

Life expectation

I with my best friend have set ourselves a 40 day challenge

40 days to create a generation of success. What this means that we will great such momentum in the next 40 days that will set the standard for the rest of the year.

Every day must consist of some work / action that falls in line with our chosen purpose. No excuses. In the 40 days we will be challenging one other to raise the bar in our lives. Also to change our way of thinking for 40 days to focus on the good and reasoning behind the good and bad things that will come our way in the next forty days.

Currently on day two and things are going well, but will keep you posted on how we getting on.

I expecting some amazing things so watch this space.

Ps ( the idea came from a message my pastor at renewal preached that in the bible 40 days represents generation. Example Jesus was in the desert forty days before his break through, Israel was in the desert 40 years before they reached he promised land) funny things is they say 40 days is what it takes to form a great habit


Remember ' God gift to us is life what with do with that life is our gift back to God'